Can you remember your first date and the sensations you felt inside, the glow in each other’s eyes and the feeling of delight?
Whether it is Valentines Day, an anniversary, a second honeymoon, or any other day of the year, connection and one-on-one time is important for a relationship. It gives us time to reconnect and to reminisce, to dream together and show our appreciation for each other and the relationship.
Below are some ideas and suggestions on how to spice up a date and create some fun and passion. Date night should not be mundane; it should be joyful and playful, along with tender and warm.
- My first and most important suggestion is to make a plan for your date. Your date should begin with intention; make your love intentional. Use some of the dates from early in your relationship to gauge the excitement and emotions you want to create with your new date night(s).
- Recreate your first date. What was your first date like, where did you go, and what did you do? What did you talk about? What emotions did you feel?
- Be prepared with topics of conversation that are interesting. Talk about your future, your dreams, and desires. Talk about fond memories, your first date and other joyous moments in your past. Find a conversation game that can spark some fun and will help you reconnect and get to know each other even more. You can find a downloadable and printable set of 101 questions on this site if you click on the ‘conversation game’ link in this paragraph or simply click into the ‘shop’ tab on this site. Get to know each other better and have a blast doing it!
- What new activity do you both want to try? Golf, ballroom dancing, go cart racing, yoga, pickleball, massage, or simply dancing in your own kitchen?
- What entertainment genre is new to both of you? How about a play, an opera, or an art gallery?
- Get out of buildings and into nature. Watch a sunset or get up early and enjoy the sunrise. Take a walk in the rain or the beautiful falling snow. Think about a romantic night with a fire looking at the stars, or pitching a tent in the wilderness, at a lake, or even in your backyard.
- Go to a new restaurant or try a new cuisine. Try a new recipe, cook the meal together and enjoy the time together in the kitchen or around the grill. Try some new desserts or finger foods, even a new drink. Stay away from the same boring foods that you eat regularly.
- Turn a room in your home into a romantic play place for an evening; get creative.
- Plan to make love. Rosemary Basson who is a sexuality researcher says that many couples who have been together for years may start making love from a place called sexual neutrality. Simply put, this means there may be little spontaneous sexual desire, so it is important to make intimacy part of your plan, if you definitely want it to happen.
What do you love? What makes both of you happy? What is something new? Can you pick something on your bucket list and if you don’t have one, write a bucket list together? Design your date around these types of questions.
Use your imagination and come up with some ideas that will make the date thrilling and fascinating; something you can reminisce upon during one of your dates in 20 years from now.
